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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

4. We left our jobs in AZ, and moved back to NH

So, if you read our last post, you basically know why we moved back. Soon after we felt that we needed to move back, Nick and I both gave our 2 weeks notices, packed up our belongings, (which wasn't too difficult because we hadn't fully unpacked everything yet) and drove back to good ole New Hampshire. We were so sick of driving across country at this point that we wanted to get back ASAP so we tried to drive as long as we could. We left on Saturday, August 1st and arrived in NH on (I believe) August 3rd, or early on the 4th.

Nick's parents were very kind to let us be able to live with them. We told them that we would even sleep on our air mattress in the living room. We didn't want to inconvenience anyone more than what we knew we already would. To our surprise, when we arrived we got our own Extreme Home Makeover moment when they stated,

"WELCOME HOME PETRIE FAMILY! WELCOME HOME!"

They then proceeded to cover our eyes, and move us across the house. When we were allowed to open our eyes, to our amazement, they had redecorated their old office into a beautiful bedroom, just for us, complete with new furniture and everything we could possibly need. (Even a bag of skittles! -YUM) We were in shock. This was way more than either of us could even have dreamed of. We were (and continue to be) extremely thankful that they have been so kind and generous to us.

So, Nick and I for the last few months have been living with his parents in Chester, NH and attending the Derry ward. Nick is currently the 2nd counselor in the Elder's Quorum presidency, and I work in the Nursery (which I absolutely love)

A few weeks after we arrived, after much searching, we both were blessed with new jobs. I got a job working for a company called Lifeshare as a Life Coach working with adults with developmental disabilities and helping them to be more independent and help to integrate them into the community. Nick got a job with the YMCA working with elementary aged children at a before and after school program.

Since then it's basically just been us trying to get everything in order so that we can save up for our own place again. We're hoping to purchase some type of home of our own. (we're not too sure exactly what yet) It's now December and we're starting to feel like we'll never make it, so many things keep coming up, that it's been making it hard to save as much as we would like (which will be another post) but we're trying to stay optimistic.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

3. Amanda's new calling! and Other Church Issues

About a month after we moved to Arizona. This is where the story gets interesting. Nick and I were having some difficulties adjusting to life in our new ward. It was very large, and we didn't feel too welcome. Whenever we met someone the conversation went something like this,
"Hi! How are you? I'm________, are you new to the ward?"
"Yes, we just moved here from NH."
"Wow! NH! That's quite a ways. Where are you staying now?"
"In the Orange Grove Apartments."
"Oh...Well it was nice to meet you." Followed by a quick exit.

Our ward boundaries were a little weird. There was about a 1mile square block around the chapel (which was also a stake center) which were the ward boundaries. Our apartment didn't fit into this boundary, but was part of the ward. Our apartment was actually about 3 miles from the building. The reason for this was that there were so many apartment complexes in the area that instead of having them all go to one ward, they decided to split them up, each apartment complex would have a different ward. The majority of our ward was very affluent, except the people who lived in our apartment complex. There appeared to us, to be a separation of the two classes, where one would look down upon another, regardless of anything else. It only mattered where you lived, and that was all you were judged upon.

Not to say that the people weren't nice. There were a lot of great people and great families within the ward, from both aspects of the spectrum. Coming from small ward, NH this was very difficult for us. We would get so upset because we felt like, "LDS people are supposed to accept and love everyone, regardless of their circumstance." We had a lot to learn of the different trials that different wards faced. It definitely opened our eyes to a broader picture.

My visiting teacher came over one day and actually brought up a conversation about it without me bringing it up, and told me that the ward used to be a lot worse about 20 years ago when her husband grew up in it. When she was married to him, and they moved back into his childhood ward, she was really afraid about belonging to this ward because of how judgemental they were. When her husband was growing up, the ward boundaries were the same, (minus the apartment complex) but that even in that 1 square mile there was a huge difference in income. On one half of the street, you had some really rich members, and on the other half, you had some really poor members. Things didn't get better until one woman who was in the "poor" bracket, became Relief Society President, and said something similar to, "We're all different, and we have no right to judge another's circumstance. We can have no idea what another family is going through financial or otherwise." From what my Visiting teacher described, things are 1000x better now than they were then. I was very grateful to have a visiting teacher so in tune with the spirit to be able to send this message along to me, so that I didn't fall into the same trap of judging others. Thanks to her I am able to have a much better understanding and love for this ward, rather than resentment, to know how far they have come.

What does this have to do with me getting a new calling? You'll see. :)

So, one Sunday, I was pulled into the Bishop's office to receive a new calling. I was called to be a Laurel Advisor. I was thus sustained during sacrament as such. That afternoon,(Church went from 11am-2pm) after sacrament, I attended Young Women's for the first time, in which the YW president came up to me and said, "Oh! You must be the new Mia Maid advisor." I informed her that as far as I knew I was the Laurel Advisor, to which she replied, "Oh. Well the Bishop must have made a mistake, we don't need a Laurel Advisor."

Well, what a way to get under my skin. The whole day I kept repeating in my head, "Smile, be nice, be nice." I was very upset needless to say. Thus began my trial #2 with the church. I had a really difficult time with the fact that if the Bishop is supposed to be calling people, based upon spiritual impressions, how could he have given me the wrong calling?

I hadn't been set apart yet, so I decided to wait it out and talk to the Bishop later.

That Wednesday after mutual, the group drove down the street to visit the previous Mia Maid Advisor, who had recently been married, and moved out of ward boundaries to give her a going away present. To which the YW president she thus introduced me as the new Mia Maid advisor in front of everyone. I took her aside after the activity and politely said to her, "As far as I know, the Bishop has called me as the Laurel Advisor, and I feel uncomfortable with you introducing me as something that the Lord hasn't called me as." She politely nodded, and we went our separate ways for the night.

The next Sunday, the Bishop's called me into his office, and explained that he was mistaken, and that he needed me as a Mia Maid Advisor. I asked if I could have some time to pray about it so that I could receive the same answer, at this point I was still quite upset over the issue, and needed some more spiritual guidance.

While we were praying about this issue, and a lot of other things, we got the impression that we needed to move back to New Hampshire.

The Sunday after that, the Bishop wasn't there, so his counselor took me into his office to set me apart. We informed him, that we had decided to move back to NH, and that we would be moving in 2 weeks. He decided to still set me apart because that's what he was told to do, which was fine by me.

So what does all this have to do together? It was a big trial for us to learn to understand the church as a whole, and to learn to love and not judge our fellow ward members despite their shortcomings. It was a huge trial for us to even go to church on Sunday because we really just didn't want to be in that environment. I suppose what we really had to learn was that old famous saying, "It's the church that's true, not the members." Through all this though, I think the most important thing it did was that it brought Nick and I closer to our prayers and our scriptures, as we sought them for guidance and comfort.

BTW has anyone ever heard that you're not keeping the sabbath day holy if you go swimming on a Sunday?

::SMILE!::

Thursday, November 26, 2009

2. We got new jobs!

Once we got to Arizona, we hit the pavement, and started looking for new jobs. What we saw from here in NH, painted a lot different picture than when we were out there. Since there are so many people who live in Mesa, what would look like a lot of open job opportunities here, really wasn't when you realized that you were competing with a much larger job pool. The really great thing about Mesa, Az was the high LDS population. There were so many more opportunities for networking, and the various wards had a lot of workshops to help people to improve their job search. After a lot of prayer, and fasting, we were both blessed to be able to find new jobs. Everyone in our new ward was shocked. They weren't the best jobs, but they were just enough to get us through. I got a part time job doing home care for the elderly, and Nick was able to get a job as a telemarketer. The best part about this was the Nick's job was literally right across the street from our apartment, so he was able to walk to and from work, so that I could take the car to be able to drive my clients around as needed. (THANK GOODNESS FOR A GPS!) The worst part about our new jobs was the fact that I worked in the morning, and Nick worked in the evening, so we weren't able to see much of each other.

To supplement our income a bit more I applied to the local Deseret Industries. Again, everyone was shocked that I was able to get in so quickly, as many people had to wait for months to even get a call back from them due to the fact that so many people were out of work in the area. The best part about this, was that the DI pays for you to get extra education so that you can get a better job. I wasn't able to get a job in a facility like I was in NH because the regulations were so different, even if I had the experience. In Az I would have needed a caregiver's license, and then a medication certification, and then a manager's license, to be able to do all the same things that I was doing in NH. Of course, all those things cost a decent amount of money, which we didn't have at the moment.

I really wish that there were more DI's around. It really is such a wonderful program, and a wonderful place to work for. It teaches people how to be good workers, and gives them the tools they need to be able to best look for a new job. Part of the requirements for working there are that, during your working hours, you participate in the Career workshop that the church sponsors, and that monthly you participate in other various workshops which are taught by your supervisors. I don't have enough good things to say about this part of the Lord's works.

Us getting these jobs in the middle of one of the hardest hit places during this recession, and my being able to further my education, was something that really testified to us that we were supposed to be in Arizona, which was something that we struggled with. We felt strongly going out that this is what the Lord wanted us to do, but there was still that tiny part that was afraid, "Well what if this ISN'T what we're supposed to do?" We're not saying that everything went perfectly smooth, but we were definitely blessed by going out there.

So, just to put this out there...contrary to what some people think, we didn't move back because we couldn't find jobs. :)

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

1. We Moved to Arizona

So, as previously stated, on May 15th, 2009 we packed up everything that we could fit into our new car and drove across country. Anything that didn't fit into our car we basically got rid of in one way or another. We had a few boxes of things which we planned to have shipped out to us once we got settled, but for the most part, if it didn't fit, it wasn't really that necessary. It's amazing what you realize you can do without when you need to fit your entire life's possessions into 32 cu. ft. (Yes, I actually looked it up!)

Here are a couple of pictures of just how crammed our car was.















There was so much weight we were afraid that the tires were going to rub on the wheel well!
-Thankfully that didn't happen!






Did I mention that we planned to SLEEP somewhere in there? Here's how that looked.






























I didn't have too much of an issue with finding a comfortable position, but Nick on the other hand-especially where he's so tall, definitely didn't get the best sleep. He's a trooper though! Even though he didn't sleep all that well, he still drove the majority of the trip. Nick gets car sick really easily, and gets terrible headaches unless he is driving, not only that but I had also come down with a terrible sore throat. We almost thought I was going to have to stop by a hospital to check to see if it was strep or not, but with ibuprofen, chloraseptic sore throat spray, and lots of fluids, I was able to make it through. It finally started to get better once we were in Arizona.

I can't say we slept in our cars the whole trip, we did rent a hotel room one night in the middle of the trip to try to catch up on some much needed sleep. It probably was the best sleep we had gotten in a LONG time. At least it felt that way after sleeping in the car for the past few days. Plus, we were able to SHOWER! I don't think I ever realized how good it feels to feel clean!









A little slice of Heaven on Earth!
























With any good road trip, we had some good laughs, listened to lots of great music, talked a whole bunch and took some funny pictures. I'll post some of the best ones here.


One of the most exciting things about a road trip across country is the time changes!















We didn't go through too many major sight seeing places, but we did see the The Gateway Arch in St. Louis, Missouri.















We did take a little detour and visit the Kirtland Temple. But we forgot our camera! So here's a googled image :)
















And this one is for Mike and Ariane, We thought we needed our own Sonic photo. :)

















There were some hilarious billboard signs on the
way. This one is pretty simple and straight forward.











Other memorable ones, which we were unable to get a photo of were, "Hitchhikers may be escaped convicts." and "Do not drive into smoke." Both of which were in Oklahoma.




A famous moment from our trip out there was THE WORST rest area EVER.




At first you see the tepees over the picnic tables and you think, "what a great idea, it will protect you from the sun while you're eating" or "Aww how cute!"














You decide pull in. Then, like any normal person who's been on the road for a few hours, the first place you head to is the bathroom. That's where the real horror begins. (We just had to take pictures, it was too ugly not to)

Never mind the 80's pink and black decor. You step into the ladie's room and you're met with cold, hard, stainless steel, The toilets look like they came straight from an airplane. To top it off- Yep! You got it, CURTAINS instead of doors for privacy.
















The Men's room, also suited with the lovely pink and black decor, was equipped with a urinal that looked like a cereal box. When they flushed there was blue water that looked like a waterfall rushing down the back of it.

















All this AND MORE can be found in the lovely state of:
(This is Nick's "unhappy" face)












Onward with our journey! We went through Texas, (Who's rest area was in stark contrast to Oklahoma-It was the BEST rest area we had seen the entire trip!) and then onto the long haul through New Mexico- This is what we saw for HOURS...NOTHING!
















We made it to Arizona that night, and decided to spend one more night at a rest area in the car. (We had another 3 hours to drive from the New Mexico/Arizona border to Mesa) This is the sign that greeted us.








We never saw any, but that's when we knew "We're not in Kansas anymore."






We were finally in Arizona! We were so excited to be on this great adventure, and to Finally be done with all that driving!












We drove for a total of: [To be updated once I find where I put my notebook of the trip]

Monday, November 23, 2009

LIFE IS CRAZY!!!

Well after being chastised during Sunday school (Thanks Brother Perkes! :) ) for not updating my blog, I decided to get to it! So much has happened in the past 6 months that it's seemed like such a daunting task to write it all down. In brief:

We moved to Arizona
We got new jobs
I got a calling
We left our jobs
We moved back to New Hampshire
We're currently living with Nick's parents
We're currently a part of the Derry ward
We both have new callings
We got new jobs
Nick is back in college for Accounting
We got a second vehicle
Nick is currently looking for a different job
We're trying to save up to get a place of our own

WHEW!

I'll try to keep posting and expand on each of the above items, add photos and all that good stuff,plus add anything new that I can think of. but for now, let's just say... LIFE IS CRAZY!!!

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

New car!

The last thing we had in mind for our trip out to Arizona was to purchase a new car. The plan was to take our Civic across country and hope for the best.

Last Wednesday we took our car to get checked out just to make sure that it would get us out there-nothing fancy. The repair guy told us that ultimately we would need about $800 total to get it to be able to reliably get us out there. Under normal circumstances, $800 isn't too bad in car repairs (that was including a labor estimate) but seeing as our car was 10 years old, with over 200,000 miles..it was time to look for something else. Nick and I both knew that it would just be a matter of time before it completely died on us, plus we would rather not dip that much into our savings before heading out there, particularly not knowing when we'll get jobs. So we prayed about it, and both felt that we should look for a new car.

We stopped in a few places, and found nothing in our price range, and then on our way home, I said, "Hey let's check out Key Auto Center up in Somersworth, I've never been in there"

When we told the dealer what we were looking for, he nodded his head, and said, "Well, I have this great 2008 Kia over here with less than 8 ,000 miles" We were both shocked, particularly since we wanted something with around $150 a month for a car payment. We must have asked him about 5 times, "are you sure this is in our price range?" We test drove it, and I loved it right away. It takes Nick awhile to warm up to something new. (He's not a big fan of change) His biggest complaint when we were test driving it was, "I don't like how the steering wheel feels on my hands" -Don't worry, he loves it now that he's had a chance to warm up to it :) Long story short, we were able to purchase the car with only putting down $100, which allows us to have more in our savings for moving out there, and for the next few months until we find jobs, and the car payments are about $180 a month. So it all works out beautifully! We are thrilled and now are even more excited for our big move.

And of course Nick's parents tell us after the fact that they had an impression a month or so ago that our car wasn't going to make it out there. About a month or so ago they offered to buy us a van, but we declined because at the time we didn't feel like it was a need, and we really don't like the idea of other people making such large purchases for is. We were so afraid that they would be upset when they found out that we went and bought a car anyways-instead it was just the opposite, they were thrilled!

Here's some pictures of what the Rondo looks like-I just grabbed them from online, but ours is the same color and everything so you get the idea! I like to think of it as a mini-mini van :)

Friday, April 17, 2009

We're Moving!

This post is a little out dated, but we've been busy as you can tell! Nick and I are moving to Mesa, AZ. We'll be heading out on May 15th, and driving across the country.

Nick and I both felt an impression that we needed to move, quite a few months ago, after researching different places and praying about them, we both felt that the Mesa area was where we should go.

Mesa is about 45 minutes outside of Phoenix, we're not sure if we'll definitely end up in that exact city, or one of the outlying towns around there, here's a little map of the area we're looking at.

"The plan" is to get a short term lease on an apartment until we get get settled into new jobs and check out the area more, and then purchase a house in the next 4-6 months while the market is still low.

and let's not forget the beautiful Mesa temple! (hehe I had to post a picture of this, because it is quite beautiful!)
We are very excited, this is a very big adventure for us, and we can't wait to see where our lives will take us!